By Ashka Patel
High Desert Daily
(Victorville)– One of the main issues that affect the everyday life of Students and Parents is bullying. In today’s environment many children get accustomed to bullying and the other Children suffer from their harsh attitude. On a local perspective The Academy of Performing Arts & Foreign Language held an Anti-Bullying Assembly for 750 Students. The assembly was conducted by San Bernardino County Officer Weiner, along With Deputy Gruff and Explorer Scouts.
Academy’s Principal Mr. Allan Miller has a very strict anti-bullying policy and this was one of the major reasons he felt this assembly was important. Officer Weiner held a great presentation and was very informative on how to stop bullying and peer pressure. She also advised student’s of the Explorer Scout’s program where they can patrol with San Bernardino County Police Officers and have a hands on experience.
Students were also advised to put in the names of bullies in a suggestion box. Anti-Bullying is a major campaign started by our First Lady Michelle Obama and it’s great to see our local school officials emphasizing the importance of this Campaign. Bullying is a common experience for many children and adolescents. Surveys indicate that as many as half of all children are bullied at some time during their school years, and at least 10% are bullied on a regular basis.
Bullying behavior can be physical or verbal. Boys tend to use physical intimidation or threats, regardless of the gender of their victims. Bullying by girls is more often verbal, usually with another girl as the target. Bullying has even been reported in online chat rooms, through e-mail and on social networking sites.
Children who are bullied experience real suffering that can interfere with their social and emotional development, as well as their school performance. Some victims of bullying have even attempted suicide rather than continue to endure such harassment and punishment.
Children and adolescents who bully thrive on controlling or dominating others. They have often been the victims of physical abuse or bullying themselves. Bullies may also be depressed, angry or upset about events at school or at home. Children targeted by bullies also tend to fit a particular profile. Bullies often choose children who are passive, easily intimidated, or have few friends. Victims may also be smaller or younger, and have a harder time defending themselves.
If you suspect your child is bullying others, it’s important to seek help for him or her as soon as possible. Without intervention, bullying can lead to serious academic, social, emotional and legal difficulties. Talk to your child’s pediatrician, teacher, principal, school counselor, or family physician. If the bullying continues, a comprehensive evaluation by a child and adolescent psychiatrist or other mental health professional should be arranged. The evaluation can help you and your child understand what is causing the bullying, and help you develop a plan to stop the destructive behavior.
If you suspect your child may be the victim of bullying ask him or her to tell you what’s going on. You can help by providing lots of opportunities to talk with you in an open and honest way.
It’s also important to respond in a positive and accepting manner. Let your child know it’s not his or her fault, and that he or she did the right thing by telling you. Other specific suggestions include the following:
Ask your child what he or she thinks should be done. What’s already been tried? What worked and what didn’t? Seek help from your child’s teacher or the school guidance counselor. Most bullying occurs on playgrounds, in lunchrooms, and bathrooms, on school buses or in unsupervised halls. Ask the school administrators to find out about programs other schools and communities have used to help combat bullying, such as peer mediation, conflict resolution, and anger management training, and increased adult supervision.
Don’t encourage your child to fight back. Instead, suggest that he or she try walking away to avoid the bully, or that they seek help from a teacher, coach, or other adult. Help your child practice what to say to the bully so he or she will be prepared the next time. Help your child practice being assertive. The simple act of insisting that the bully leave him alone may have a surprising effect. Explain to your child that the bully’s true goal is to get a response. Encourage your child to be with friends when traveling back and forth from school, during shopping trips, or on other outings. Bullies are less likely to pick on a child in a group. If further help is needed you may also contact your child’s teacher or Principal.
Another Important Drill taught at the Assembly was “Don’t Talk to Stranger’s”. One of the main reasons children go with Strangers are because they are fooled by tricky words that are quite coviencing. Officer Wieneger stated that Children should have a family code word, such as “rainbow bright”. If children are going to be asked to step into a car and they ask the stranger of the code word, they are far less likely to step in to the car, after the stranger fails the test. This is also a great idea if your child in locked inside of a room and he’s uncertain on when to open the door.
Bike and Skateboard Safety was also taught. Another major issue tackled at the assembly was Say No To Drugs. After the Assembly Officer Weinegar showed the Children her Police Vehicle and this was very encouraging for the Children. It’s great to see our local community leaders, teachers, and Police Officers take part in a informative and helpful Program. Children are our future and it’s a great idea to be there for them in the early stages of life.
A Student In Mrs. Aruguy’s Music class, Khayber Chauhan stated, ” we were really happy to have a police officer show us rules for not bullying”.